When is a prostitute a prostitute?

This is not an adult blog, but there are some adult concepts in it. You have been advised.

Before you click through the two links below, be aware that they also contain adult ideas and themes and in some cases, some adult-type language.

The idea for today’s discussion is from this piece.

Which is one of a series by writer Marina Ashade.

The writer challenges you to think (something I try to do with varying success) on the concepts, ideas and realties of personal relationships especially where money and sex are concerned.

I like it.

I understand that some people will not. But then, some people are content to stay in their insular world and refuse to admit that someone can be different and be just as much as person as anyone else. Bigots abound.

Ahhhhhh.

I particularly like Ashade’s piece on prostitution. When is a person (not just a woman) a prostitute? Ashade does a GREAT job of running that question at readers from every direction.

At least this outfit is realistic.

Lemme ask you. Is prostitution using sex for gain? The gain can be material, economic, social or pretty much anything else, personal satisfaction excluded. Careful how you answer as your answer may be used. Think hard. Now into our discussion.

One question Ashade doesn’t address, ‘cause she has a definite opinion on it, is: Is prostitution right or wrong?

If you say it is wrong, why? What gives you the right to dictate how another adult human being may live, especially when they are not hurting you?

Saying “It’s just wrong” ain’t gonna fly. Under that kind of specious reasoning, I can say smoking is wrong. Cursing is wrong.

Oooo. If you wanna reason like that, then I can say “Not believing the same way I believe is wrong.”

Do you really want to go there? There are places in the world where this is the law of the land. If you do go there, who’s gonna decide what is right and what is wrong? I already know who’ll decide: The people with the most power.

Neener Neener Neener

Let’s leave morals outta this, M’Kay? Because your morals are not universal and all your morals are not even accepted by a majority of the world’s population. I ain’t saying your morals are not right, just saying that’s the kind of reasoning that logic cannot affect.

Say a person engages in prostitution because it is the only way they can get food and shelter. Is this wrong? Before you say such circumstances cannot happen, get out of your comfort zone and eyeball conditions in the slums around the world.

So is it wrong? Should a person instead starve to death? Should a person instead die of exposure to the elements?

If it is wrong and you do not want such people to die, what are you doing about it?

If you say exchanging sex for such things as necessary food and shelter is permissible, despite it being prostitution, what about people who exchange sex for food, shelter and other such items even though they could find work and provide for themselves?

Is that wrong?

I ask again: Is prostitution using sex for gain?

Remember Anna Nicole Smith? She married that ancient millionaire geezer. Ever wonder why?

Regardless, there are plenty of people in the United States who willingly engage in sex for the specific purpose of getting and keeping a mate. I went to college with a bunch of ‘em. Not knocking sororities, but a serious number of the girls in such organizations were there SPECIFICALLY to catch and keep a man. An education was incidental. They were trophy husband hunting.

Honesty. A good, but not always the absolute best, policy.

Is that prostitution? They used sex to achieve a goal. Is that wrong? More to the point, is it prostitution?

Is prostitution using sex for gain?

Careful how you answer. Your answer may be used to beat you down. Women, far more than men, use sex as way to keep a roof over their heads and food on the table through their husband. They make the beast with two backs, as Shakespeare said, despite not really wanting to engage in such behavior.

Money may make the world go round, but sex starts it to moving

Is that prostitution? If you say using sex for gain is prostitution then such people are engaged in prostitution. Will you condemn the women (and some men) around the world who use sex as a way to keep their mate from leaving?

Careful! You are considering the fate of some of your neighbors. Yes you are. You might be surprised to know how many women use sex as a way to influence and attempt to control their husbands.

Not tonight honey, unless you buy me a new car.

Achieving control is a form of gain. So is using sex to control someone a form of prostitution? Is getting $50 for sex prostitution? Is getting a vehicle for sex prostitution? Is getting house for sex prostitution?

Okay then, what about people who engage in sexual activities because they enjoy doing it but don’t get renumeration of any sort. Is this prostitution? I’d ask “is it wrong” but we’re leaving morals outta this so I won’t ask.

What’s the difference between a person who pockets $50 for sex, a person who gets a survival-needed meal and a person who gets a house for the rest of their life?

Since I do have Christian friends who read this blog, I leave you with a comment from the Bible. 1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Gimme your best shot.